Coaching for
ADHD-ish adults.
Hi, I’m Jenny.
I help ADHD-ish people climb out from under piles of undone tasks and overwhelm, so they can actually ENJOY the lives, careers, and families they have worked so hard to create.
If you want to
go fast,
go alone;
If you want to
go far,
go together.
If you are here, I’m betting you’ve already heard a lot of well-intentioned advice. If all you needed was just the “right” advice, you likely wouldn’t still be looking for something more. Coaching is a partnership filled with non-judgement, empathy, and support, where we work together to help you find the right next steps that work specifically for you (and that you’re actually excited about).
That being said, I’ll also provide access to resources and information, because sometimes we don’t know what we don’t know.
Values & Style
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Partnership
My strength is in finding your strength. The burden gets lighter when you’re not alone in it. Together, we clarify the right next steps for you.
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Empathy & Non-judgement
Having ADHD can be frustrating, overwhelming and infuriating. You are not “too much” here. I'm a partner next to you who gets the struggles first-hand.
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Body & Brain Connection
By utilizing the brain & body connection you can build more capacity to be present for what's important to you.
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Bravery
Our minds are wired to keep us safe. But, old patterns that kept us safe will rarely give us the lives we are hoping for. It takes bravery and persistence to utilize new tools and grow different mindsets.
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Meaning
We will work to not just help you accomplish goals and decrease overwhelm, but to do it with the energy that comes from a clear sense of purpose. It’s not just that you get there, it’s that you enjoy the process by honoring what’s meaningful to you.
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Laughter
A bit of laughing at ourselves (instead of shaming ourselves) can feed perseverance. Despite our best efforts, sometimes ADHD is gonna ADHD. Laughter is powerful medicine.
What People Are Saying
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Maren Goerss / Coaching Client
“Jenny seems to ask the perfect questions that challenge me to dig into what I really need and want. I’ve been able to reflect on how far I’ve come and where I want to be. Working with Jenny, I have been able to uncover the clarity and motivation I had not found on my own, which has allowed me to move forward in so many places I had been feeling stuck. She’s helped me create a path that feels right for me, bringing me more hope for my future. I have also learned to be more present, with less stress and more joy. I am forever grateful for Jenny’s coaching. I don’t know where I would be without her!”
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Christian Bland / Coaching Client
“Jenny has been incredibly helpful in helping me navigate managing business and a family. She’s been great at helping me discover my own blindspots and helping me build a tool belt to be successful in the future.”
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Sarah Conreay / School Principal
“Jenny Bethke is a fabulous wealth of empathy, knowledge, and strategies to support families as they work through the unique strengths and challenges of ADHD. The language she uses with families and children empowers them to see their ADHD as a true strength rather than a deficit. Her guidance allows them to creatively problem solve some of the challenges they face. Her impact on the families in our school community and the children who have worked with her have been incredibly supportive and beneficial. “
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Riley L. / ADHD Parenting Group Member
“Anyone with ADHD children, this group is a must! Jenny is so knowledgeable, sweet, and funny! We have enjoyed every moment of this group. We’ve learned so much, and how to best support our daughter! I can’t recommend this enough.”
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Brittney B. / ADHD Parenting Group Member
"This class has been such a huge help learning about ADHD for someone that has tendencies as a parent and sees them in her kids. The class was not only informative about ADHD but it was also a huge group of support as a parent to feel like we are not alone and we can be better informed to make decisions for our kids. It was great because it was more of a collaborative environment where we could share our thoughts and experiences and not feel like they were judged by Jenny or others. She was a wealth of info I had never heard of online or in books I have read."
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Tori Nicole / REGULATED Attendee & ADHD Coach
Jenny’s presentation was not only informative, it was interesting and immediately applicable. Her pacing and ability to deliver salient points backed by experience and research was impressive to say the least. I walked away from the seminar/meeting energized by my newfound understanding of the nervous system. Not to mention the fact she actually held my undivided attention (which is no small feat!)
Since then I have used strategies Jenny suggested with nearly ALL of the clients in my caseload. To say resetting these clients’ nervous systems when dysregulated was impactful would be a massive understatement.
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ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) is a condition that makes access to executive function difficult and the sometimes seemingly simple tasks associated with it arduous. Executive function encompasses things like the ability to plan, prioritize, organize, initiate tasks and also emotional regulation. Persons with ADHD tend to have lower amounts of dopamine, which is the "happiness" neurotransmitter, and less blood flow to the frontal lobe, which is the area of the brain in charge of executive function.
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Because people with ADHD often grow up getting in trouble more, or having to work incredibly hard to keep their behavior socially acceptable, a deep sense of shame can develop. So, when a rejection is felt, even though it might seem small or trivial to others, it sits on top of a large accumulation of past rejections and triggers a feeling of not being good enough. Because the typical methods that work for neurotypical individuals often don't work for those with ADHD, being handed more methods that worked for others can often exacerbate the feelings of rejection.
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There’s a gap between acquiring knowledge and then being able to put it into action. And, not every action works for every person. Especially for individuals and families with ADHD in the mix, knowing where to start can often feel overwhelming. I work with my clients to help them realign what is most meaningful and important to them with the actions they take.
The reason working together with a coach can be life-changing is because our brains are wired to keep us “safe”, not necessarily happy or fulfilled. Your brain is working hard to keep you doing what you’ve always done, even if it’s not serving you. I come alongside you with curiosity and empathy to open up new mental connections and pathways. Together, as a team, I work with you to discover the road blocks getting in your way, and create unique, tailor-made solutions to move forward.
As a life coach I get to create a safe space to explore your own life, and see and utilize the intelligence, creativity, and bravery inherent within that has likely been forgotten or minimized. In that space, growth and movement can flourish.
Frequently Asked Questions
Featured on TWO episodes of
Finding Neurodivergence Podcast.